One of my meditation teachers, Dr. Dharma Singh, told me this year, that you know you are on the right path when all of your 3 me's are the same. This gave me plenty to think about at the time -- they were not at that time. Fear probably drove me to think that I "should" be or "had to" be, but the truth is all I needed was to be.
The three parts of you are: the you that you see as yourself, the you that other people see and the you that you would like to be.
How do you put all of those parts of you into one? Dr. Dharma said it's about "being" -- not doing. Being the best person you can be, being blessed, being abundant, being healthy, being happy, being holy.
For me the key has been practicing yoga. Yoga is teaching me everyday to simply BE - in the journey to make all of the parts of me to be the same.